Numerology for 2024: Find Out What This Year Will Bring You! with Felicia Bender, Ph.D.
January 6, 2024
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Felicia Bender - The Practical Numerologist® uses numerology to validate and define your pathway and purpose in life in an empowering way that’s fun, inspiring, and actionable.
She's the author of several books and is the resident numerologist for AstroStyle.com
Felicia is a go-to numerology expert featured in many media outlets, including Refinery 29, Women’s Health, and more.
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Dr. Lotte | Intro [00:00:00] Welcome to Dr. Lotte: Science with Soul, the podcast that transcends the boundaries between science and spirituality. I'm Dr. Lotte, your host, a Physician, Medical and Psychic Medium, Ancestral Healer, Keynote Speaker and Award-Winning Author of Med School After Menopause The Journey of My Soul. This podcast finds its roots in my own extraordinary life experiences through my personal odyssey. I have discovered our profound connection within a divine tapestry of existence. I have traversed the realms of illness, healing, and transformation, propelled by Two Near-Death Out-of-Body Experiences that bestowed upon me the extraordinary gifts of clairvoyance, clairaudience, and clairsentience. Guided by this sacred calling I embraced the pursuit of medical school at the age of 54, prepared to be uplifted, transformed, and awakened to create a path to healing your own life physically, emotionally and spiritually by bridging the gap between science and soul.
Dr. Lotte [00:01:19] Welcome back, everyone, to Dr. Lotte Science with Soul. Today, my very special guest is Felicia Bender. Felicia Bender, The Practical Numerologist, uses numerology to validate and define your pathway and purpose in life in an empowering way that is fun, inspiring and actionable. She is the author of several books and is the resident neurologist for Astrostyle.com. Felicia is a go to numerology expert featured in many media outlets, including Refinery29, Women's Health and more.
Dr. Lotte [00:01:59] Welcome back, everyone, to another episode of Dr. Lotte Science with Soul. And also, I wish everyone a very Happy New Year and I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season. And I am really excited to have Felicia Bender back on the podcast as a guest today. And this has become almost a bit of a tradition Felicia! Of having you come in every year and, and talk about you know numerology and what that how that can help us and what's in store now this new year globally. So first of all, just a warm welcome. It's such an honor to have you back on the show again.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:02:37] Well, it's always you know, when before we started our recording, I just love having our catch up sessions together! So and we kind of chat around about what we're going to bring to all of you who are listening. Right? And some of you know about numerology. Maybe you have been listening and you you've listened to these podcasts before and you understand what numerology is. Maybe there are some of you out there who are like, okay, I don't want a math a math lesson today! Laughter. And I'm here to assure you that you will not get a math lesson. And it's funny because numerology basically just I'll give an idea about what numerology is for those who really don't know what it is. And numerology, the kind I use comes from Pythagoras, and I don't know if any any of us were paying attention in math class, which is with the Pythagorean theorem of geometry. I mean, who am I talking to? I'm talking to a medical doctor. So you were paying attention, weren't you?
Dr. Lotte [00:03:41] No.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:03:41] You weren't? That makes me feel so much better!
Dr. Lotte [00:03:44] Laughter. Honestly, I wasn't. You know, it's really funny to think back because I'm not sure to ever had geometry. I mean, I had some geometry in maybe seventh, eighth and ninth grade because you remember, I grew up in Europe. So in high school we majored and I was a language and business major, so I didn't really have math. I had languages instead of of math. I think I have math maybe the first year, but it was more or less regular algebra and then to a pre-med as a pre-med student going into med school geometry, I didn't have to take geometry I think I took all these other classes, but never, never geometry, which was really funny because I wish I had! Laughter
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:04:23] Well, in some ways it's like I well, I'm a Humanities, I have a Ph.D. in theater. So you're talking to someone who wanted to stay as far away from math or accounting or anything like that as humanly possible. And which brings us to really numerology isn't math. It actually just like astrology, just like many of these other modalities, it's a language that we that is spoken, right? So basically that's what I find so enthralling about it. And then it does come from Pythagoras, at least the kind that I use. And he was a, you know, Greek mathematician, he was really into astrology, astronomy, music, because basically numerology is based on the concept that numbers carry with them data and code. And it's vibratory, right? It's vibration, it is frequency. And we can really kind of extend that into our willing suspension of disbelief in many ways in our current culture, which everything is digital, right, where we are looking at all of this. And because prior, it's kind of like I don't I am not sure about that, how how do you how so? And so basically it's this concept that numbers again, once you learn the defining qualities of each of the numbers, you can plug that information in wherever it shows up. And so in numerology, we use for for each of us individually, we use your full name as it appears on your birth certificate, and then we use your your current name also, your first and last, and then your date of birth. And we can then do a lot of calculations with that can show you very in great detail what your life's purpose is. That's your life path number. And we can talk about how you're going to do that. What your soul is, is wanting to accomplish in this lifetime. Your birth day number has something to say about your personality, about your values, about your traits, all of those things. And we can also, which is what we're going to be talking about today, talk about cycles of time that we show up in because, you know, as we all know, right, that we think, oh, well, this year, next year it's all the same. Rinse and repeat, right?
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:06:44] Well.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:06:46] It isn't! Laughter. It isn't. And we know that when we're in it, even though we have this weird concept that it that it is the, you know the same thing which which is now that we're in January, we can understand we kind of have that flurry of New Year's resolutions, right? We're all going to lose 20 pounds. Right? Laughter. And and whatever else we're going to do. And yet, if we use these tools, we could really get make these into more real solutions rather than resolutions. Right. Because we can really align with our souls purpose. What we really, really checked in to do, I mean, this is the cornerstone of your work, right?
Dr. Lotte [00:07:28] Yeah! No, I love numerology. I often talk to my clients about, you know, go to your website and figure out your life path, this is how you do it. And it's fascinating how much information is just in that it's so easy to to find out your life path or your personal year. And I know you're going to talk about how to how to figure it all out. But it's it's fascinating. And I've been following this for the last couple of years now since I met you. And looking every year I get my chart from you to see, you know, what's my personal year this year? And you know what what am I supposed to be focusing on? And it's a huge, I've I think is a huge help because as you go through the year, sometimes I go back and I say, wait a second, is this the year I'm doing this? You know, and you realize that you're doing all of those things. So it's it's I think it's fascinating because it's like we have this movie script that was already written and we're just living it out. And it's just a matter of trying to figure out what you wrote down in that movie script before you came down to Earth. But numerology can be very, very helpful to keep to sort of keep you on track of what it is that you incarnated for.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:08:36] And I love that you bring that up because this isn't a crystal ball, right? And this isn't a directive. It basically is a framework of what you already set up. And so I find that what it does mostly for for me personally, but for most people I know, it just offers you validation and it offers you some duress, some, some, I don't know, encouragement and direction. Because for instance, if it's a if it's a year where you're not meant to be focusing on your finances and you're finding a lot of frustration there, but you all of the outside static of the world says that you should always be hammering away at your career. You should always be, you know, wanting to make more and more and more money and all of that. And you're getting that conflicted message with internally, you're like, this doesn't feel right. And if you can then look and see that your year isn't set up for that that that comes the year later that you can you can kind of cut yourself some slack and go and and then it just it then then it all starts to flow right it just flows better.
Dr. Lotte [00:09:46] I think it helps too with like creating trust in your, in your path, like just like you said, when you're trying to hammer away at something, but it's not really coming together for you. But instead of just being frustrated with that, if I go and look at my numerology chart, I say, "Oh, this is not the year that doesn't start until six months from now." And exactly. It cuts you some slack and you can now refocus your energy on the things that this is what is supposed to happen in the next six months instead of trying to for something to happen. That is still not going to happen until the time is right, I think is I think our life is very divinely planned and guided and there's a right time when things are supposed to take place.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:10:28] I couldn't agree with you more because I am and I'm leaning into that so much more in my personal life. But even with my client work is that the timing is is as cliche as it sounds, that it is everything. And I reflect on my personal life right now, I'm in a nine personal year, and my astrology, which I won't go into, is I'm heading into toward the, you know, at the end of this year, the end of a very pretty cataclysmic time for me. And it it doesn't demolish me at all! I'm like, oh, I can kind of relax, not realax, well, kind of relax! Laughter. But but I can give myself the time to really wind it down, to really get, you know, get the nine personal year, which we'll talk about in just a second, is a time for closures. It's a time for exits. It's a time for surrendering. It's a time for things to to be to exit. And they do that. And you don't want to to cut that off before it's before it's time, because then you won't have the room for the other stuff, that other great stuff that's supposed to be coming in, right? So with that said, let's talk we're going to we're going to do kind of we're going to do something brief here, I think. And just to give an overview of 2024 as a universal year, because neurologically we can have this umbrella, we can understand what the year brings to us all collectively. So it's a global year. A universal year. Kind of like in Chinese astrology. I think 2024 is the year of the what? Fire Dragon I believe? I'm not an expert, but I think it is.
Dr. Lotte [00:12:13] I'm not either!
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:12:14] Laughter. So for those of you who are inclined that way, I'm just using that as an example because that that gives you an idea of all year long what you what Chinese astrology is is there not-
Dr. Lotte [00:12:29] 2024 is the year of the wood dragon, according to Google.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:12:32] Wood dragon!
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:12:34] Okay, fire dragon, wood dragon. It's a lot of it's a lot of firey energy, right? Yeah. So it's the wood dragon. And then we're going to and then it's an eight, a number eight universal year in numerology. And they go together quite nicely, truth be told. And so very basically to get the number for the universal year, you just take 2024 and you add each of those digits together and then reduced to a one digit number. So two plus zero plus two plus four equals eight. So it's an eight universal year. So eight in numerology is the number of manifestation. Okay? Plain and simple. Laughter. But of course, it's not plain and it's not simple. So the eight is a power year. So all of us globally and we're already in it, right? We bridge from 2023 where we have wars that are exploding, we have conflict, we have financial crises, we've got power struggles, we've got court cases. We've got all of these things that are really, really coming to a head and coming to a peak in terms of who's in power, who's in control, who's got who's got the money, who doesn't, how are we going to set this up? Right? And so a lot of this is really volatile right now. That goes right in line with the eight personal eight sorry, the eight universal year. And so all of us globally, it's it's going to kick out our collective patooties!
Dr. Lotte [00:14:14] Yeah! Laughter.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:14:15] And and I always say the eight when the eight shows up it is like cause it's it's like boot camp, cosmic boot camp. It is tough love and it is forcing the issue and it is making people say, you know, step up or get stepped on. And yet its highest octave is is to use the power use the influence use the financial abundance for the good of all. Okay? So and that's high on the high on the hierarchy scale for for using the 8 so does that make sense overall? Does that feel how does that feel to you in in terms of what's coming in?
Dr. Lotte [00:14:56] I mean I mean is make perfect sense when you look at where where we are right now. Right with all the different wars and crisis is going on, it makes sense that we are going to go into that and sort it all out.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:15:10] Exactly. Exactly. So with that, that's kind of the umbrella energy. That's what we're all kind of swimming around in. Right. And yet most of us want to know, Well, that's great. I can read the news and there are things that affect me, things that don't, of course, everything affects us. We're all connected. And yet what about me? What about my my personal life, right? And so neurologically, we can then get into the more immediate energy that each of us experiences through a given year called the Personal Year. So the personal year is the calculation here is taking the month of your birth, the date of your birth, the day, your birth day, and then taking the current year, which we which we just talked about. So it's an 8. So we've already done the math. It's a number 8. So for you I'll just use yours, you're born on May 28th, so it's a five plus one plus eight. So it's 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14 and then one plus four equals five. So you have left a 4 personal year from 2023 and now you're emerging into a number 5 personal year. So we'll talk about what that means, and I'm going to dig in with you in just a second.
Dr. Lotte [00:16:33] I can't wait! Laughter
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:16:34] I can't wait. I'm so curious! Laughter. And yet for those of you out there calculating yours, so again, it's your day, your month, your day, the current year, and you're reducing all of that to a one digit number. Okay. So now if we step back, we're all I'm also going to observe any of you who followed me at all, know that I'm the practical numerologist and I'm always I'm also saying, hey, there are different ways of doing things, right? There are different, different numerologists just do things differently, they calculate differently, they call things different, all of tha, you know, it happens with every ology, every even even in med school. I'm sure there were different different ways of doing things right? So with that said, what I want to say is that I consider the personal year to run from January 1st through December 31st of the given year. It intensifies around your birthday and then it really crescendos in September for everyone. All right. So the second school of thought is that it runs from birthday, from your birthday to birthday, more like a solar return in astrology. So it's birthday to birthday if that is your train, your train of thought, that's cool, that's that's super groovy. And I, I have tried it both ways in my own life and for me, I find that the January 1st through December 31st works for me and it works mathematically for me as well. So just just that disclaimer. So now let's talk about what this brings to us. The 1 personal year, if you're in a 1 is the as it as it indicates, it is the beginning of a cycle, right? You have just finished a nine year cycle. Okay. So this is kind of like knowing the theme to your party. So like what what energy is there to support you? And then where are the caveats or where are the challenges going to be? So for a 1 personal year, it is new beginnings, new starts. It is usually an absolutely new chapter. If you have gotten if you've done all of the exfoliation, laughter, let's say, from your 9 personal year, you're going to be open and really ready to to make some major changes in life and go in different directions. Oftentimes this has to do with career and that sort of thing. It can it can then also double up with your personal life. Maybe, maybe you got a divorce in a in a 9 personal year and in a 1 you meet a new relationship partner and the next year maybe you get serious. That sort of thing can happen as well. But the 1 the 1 is what do I want to start? And you have to be really mindful about what you bring in during that one personal year because it'll kind of hang with you for the for the next cycle, right? So you have to be kind of persnickety about what comes in with you. But again, new chapter, new beginnings, very dynamic energy. And it's the end of a three year transition cycle that started in your 8 personal year. So you're kind of fatigued at that point. It really there's been a lot of changes and a lot of transitions by the time you get to the 1, okay, if you're in a 2 personal year, it's designed as a bit of of a resting time because you've been through a lot for those for the 8, the 9 and the 1. And so now it's a 2. The 2 is the relationship number. It's about getting in touch with your emotions. It's about slowing down. It's about right timing. So it is a time where relationships take front and center. You've been pretty self-focused for the past three years and the 2 personal years really meant for us time, right? Focusing on friends, family, significant other, that sort of thing. And for business and all of that, it is very good for networking and really finding your people. All right. So the 3 comes in after that 2. The 3 is all about self-improvement and self-improvement, less about there's something, you know, icky that needs to be improved upon. It's more about it's more about where do you where have you covered up your authenticity? And we all have. Right? We know that. So it is a great year on the one hand, for trauma work, energy work, spiritual healing in that way, anything that can really heal your your trauma and your past. And on the other hand, but they also merge is it's a creative year. If you are a creator, it is a time where you're really supported with creating content. If you're an actor, if you're creative, if you're a musician, if you're a teacher, anything, it's really producing a lot of content there. And there can be emotional ups and downs during a three personal year as well because you're getting you it's all about expression. So you're learning how to express yourself and depending on where you are in that, it can be really joyful. And then it can also be a little bit painful if we're blocked in certain ways. And at this point, I think it's really good also to do a little sidebar to say your your personal year is going to be much different when you're in your 20s, for instance, than you are. Then it will be when you're in your 60s or you know, or any other time. So it's really interesting to kind of reflect about what is taking priority in our lives during that particular time in our life. So if you're in a if you're in a 4 personal year, it's about it's last year was more about socializing, having some fun, doing a little, you know, a little bit more free flowing. Hopefully the 4 is kind of batten down the hatches. So if you're heading into your four and we're going to reflect on this with you because you are you just you just got out of year 4. So the 4 is more about, okay, holy cow, what am I doing and how am I doing it? Can I look at my kind of life's business plan and get it out on the table and review that at the beginning of the year? And it's more about seeing where you are, where you want to be, how you can get more stability, how you can get more security. It often has to do with your home and home life. It can do with ancestral healing, family dynamics, all of those things that can come into play there to be to be healed and dealt with differently. But overall, it is a hard working year where longer range goals are really driving you. If not, it can be kind of a cataclysmic year where you feel really undirected, you feel really beleaguered, you you're feel exhausted, you, you know, all of those sorts of things. Because I always think about when we're talking about numerology, we're going to talk about the optimal qualities, but we're always going to have that oppositional pole, right? So if it's a year all about working hard, you might be going, "Eehhhhhh, I don't, I don't wanna!". Laughter. So how did let before we get to the 5, can you put that into any context in terms of what 2023 brought your way?
Dr. Lotte [00:24:20] Oh, it was it was very spot on! It was a lot of hard work, a lot of planning on where am I heading, where am I going, what is it that I want to bring to the people? What kind of healing? But it just the work. I mean, I can't believe that, you know, the whole year has gone by because it seems like it just started a month ago because it's it was that intense. It was a really intense year when it comes to work, I, I felt like I was working seven days a week at times. Just I'm always, always I was always working this whole past year. It was incredibly intense in that way. But there was also, something about the like the home, and we did this sort of a revamp internally, which culminated in September. You said something about culminating in September, where I ended up with one day off. You know, I had one day off. I was moving my office. It used to be in the living room during the pandemic, you know, because every everybody we all everything shifted. And so I moved my office back in here. And then I realized that now I work online a lot, and the paint in this room was kind of yellow, beige. And I would joke like, I look like I have hepatitis on the screen because I was just blending with a wall! Laughter. And so I had one day and one day off and I was like, "That's it!" Shoved all the furniture, unplugged everything, put it in the middle of the room, put a plastic tarp over it, tape the whole room, painted the room twice, removed all the tape, put all the furniture back and was back in working the next morning. Right? That was the intense, that was my life this entire year. It was that intense. Like, that's my one day off. That's what happened! And on my other one day off, I painted three more rooms and the hallway and the dining room, the living room, not the laundry room and the kitchen all happened in one month and it was September.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:26:23] How many chiropractic?! Laughter
Dr. Lotte [00:26:26] Non! Laughter
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:26:26] Appointments did you have to? Laughing
Dr. Lotte [00:26:28] I know! No, I didn't. I know, my body held up luckily! I was very sore, the first the first room I painted was very sore because climbing up and down the ladder, you've to got to tape everything. Otherwise, you know, I'm not that good of a painter. But you've gotta tape tape because if the paint in this room is is that it's called Spanish Tile and it's a darkish reddish color, and if you miss, then you're going to see all the streaks as you have the tape along the ceiling, tape around a doorframe. So, very interesting when you when you talk about the year and the intensity it was, but it's funny that so many things sort of about the home came together in September, I don't know when when it happened I was joking with my daughter "Didn't Felicia say something on that podcast last year about the home?" It started with a shower curtain! We said, "Oh, let's change the shower curtain. It's kind of old." And then it was "Oh thess curtains are kind of bad", and then it just kind of went room by room. And then we said, "No, we're just going to repaint." And then the whole thing happened.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:27:27] And then it rolls from there. That is the most perfect example. I mean, honestly, it is so it is, it's funny how spot on that is. And, and what I would also say is that I would daresay that probably with your business and other aspects of your life, you were able to focus on systematizing. Because that is that is also another another component of the 4 personal year. Let's get some systems- let's take the time-.
Dr. Lotte [00:27:58] Yes.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:28:00] To get some systems in place.
Dr. Lotte [00:28:02] Yes, we did, that!
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:28:03] Yes!
Dr. Lotte [00:28:04] We revamped the whole website and got the systems in place! Right? Laughter. With lots of different little things to make things run smoother. Right? Because the more busier you get, the harder it is to keep up. And things sort of has to have a system to it in order to flow. And so, yeah, that started that was during the summer, I would say May, June, July, August. It was all systems in place about social media, about the about this podcast, about the website, it was just everything I do had to become how to get up a notch in order to work correctly.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:28:47] Yeah! .
Dr. Lotte [00:28:48] It's fascinating! And it's a 4 year!
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:28:49] It is!
Dr. Lotte [00:28:50] I'm sure you're having a great time with this! Laughter
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:28:52] Well, and it's it's a perfect example, and those of you listening out there who are heading into your 4 personal year. Take heed. Laughter.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:29:00] Right?
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:29:01] And also plan for some breaks. I hope that you were able to give yourself meditation time and relax that that's part of your routine.
Dr. Lotte [00:29:09] Yup!.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:29:10] Okay, good.
Dr. Lotte [00:29:10] I have now systematized my schedule as well too, because I realized I was just not getting you know one, I was just having one day off. Some weeks was one day, some weeks no, no day because I'm doing so many interviews and podcasts and that all get slotted on my day off. But now I have systematized my schedule and you know, now this coming year is going to be always certain days that are off. And because having breaks and taking, you know, meditation and and resetting is so important when you're working because it refreshes everything that you do, you become a better person, you work better, you provide better service. So it's important to to also take that time.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:29:55] Absolutely. So you're you're just you're saying it beautifully because that's exactly what you I would say you got a on a scale from 1 to 10, you got a you got a ten! Laughter
Dr. Lotte [00:30:08] On the 4 year! Laughing.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:30:09] On the number 4 year! So and that's hard to come by because most people at this, you know, at the end of their four year, they're like, "Oh, just get me out of here!" You know, they're they're just they're just like, "Oh, I'm exhausted!" This is just been so, you know, just slogging, you know, slogging away because you can come up with some, you know, through against some limitations during a 4 personal year and that sort of thing. So now what do you have to look forward to this year in 2024, you are in a 5 personal year! The 5 is smack dab in the middle of this nine year cycle. So I find it is as a numerologist I have found that it is a very important year. It's a very vital year because it is a it's kind of a pivot point. Well, it's not kind of, it is! Laughter. So it is the 5 and numerology is all about adventure, the experience. It's about fun. It's about it's about doing. It's about travel. It's about sex and sensuous experiences. It's about all of those very fun, very freewheeling, very just gregarious energy in the 5. So it often feels a little bit ADHD. During a 5 personal year and people can feel it. It's like the - "They're like, I don't know what it is, but I just - " first of all, they'll say, "I just feel a little edgy" you know? energetically. And second of all and I joking, I joke about this, but not really. It's almost like you you have you have dipped yourself in pheromones. Because suddenly, seriously, I'll have clients are like, there, I'll mention this and they're like, "Oh my gosh, it's so bizarre. What you're saying is like, I've been hit on I mean, I'll go to the same coffee shop, the same people there all the time and 5 personal year I land there, and like five people hit on me, you know, ask for my phone number or whatever that day." So and again, it depends on if you're married or if you're in an in an intimate, monogamous relationship. It can be a time where you you know, you just have more fun, you commit more to date night. You do things out of the ordinary. Right? It's really a time to not go to the same restaurant every Friday night that you always go to. It's like, okay, in a 5 personal year, we're going to mix it up! We're going to go do something different! We're going to go we're going to go play miniature golf, even though we don't really ever think about miniature golf, but we're going to go do it! You know, we're just going to do something for the for the fun and for the for the experience of it. But overall, it is a time where new play, new people, new places, new things come out. You you'll be getting a lot of opportunities kind of torpedoing towards you. And some things are meant to just go right on by you like a meteor. Laughter.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:33:20] Right?
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:33:21] And yet some things you're meant to kind of catch, like the football or the, you know, whatever metaphor you want to use and some will will have staying power. I find that usually those aren't don't come until mid year to three quarters of the way through the year. Right. The other things are meant to set you up for it, to give you the experience, to give you the connections. If you have any opportunity to travel internationally or within the United States, anything to do to go give presentations. Maybe this is a year where you start getting invited to give some live in-person readings or presentations, workshops, seminars, that sort of thing. And you travel maybe a little bit to do that, that might be because of what you've systematized this year that things will those offers will start coming in and but overall at the at the you know, by September there can be some very real significant changes. That you go, you think back to January and go, I would have never in a million, trillion years thought that this would be what I was doing, or this is what I experienced or whatever that that is. So again, fun, travel, sex, sensuousness. I would also say if you're if if you are single during a five personal year, it's a great time to date. It's a great time maybe to even meet your one, but don't put a ring on it if you if you're just right and you know, at the beginning just, trust me. Laughter. Trust me on that. So then the for the 5 moves you into the 6 and the 6 is the personal year 6 is, so the 5 was the fun, you know, adventurousness and now you kind of got to rein it in a bit. It's more about home, family, duty, the responsibilities that go with that. So it's often where you kind of have to step up and step into some roles that have a little bit more responsibility with friends, family, colleagues, all of that. It's also in numerology called the Marriage and Divorce Year, or the 6 is the marriage and divorce energy. And that is not ominous. It should not be taken negatively, I hope. It is basically, if you're in a relationship that asks you to up up the up your game, and if you're in a relationship that is faltering that you've been working on, that may not be sustainable, that might be a time where you make that determination. And mostly it's about how do I love and how do I want to be loved? Right? And so that is a question that is asked and it is very much about looking at where you are midpoint after that, the big, you know, change up of your 5 personal year and moving into that 6 and going, "Wow, who am I now? How do I take care of myself? How do I have these boundaries? How do I have more acceptance with myself and with others?" But home, duty, service, family, basically, and responsibility during the 6 year. The 7 is a an interesting year. It is a year that is kind of prepping you for this transition cycle. And the 7 year, the 7 in numerology is the spiritualist, it's that seeking energy, it's more that hermit kind of energy. And so during a 7 personal year, it is a spiritually seeking deep dive. It's a time where you often are very introspective. It's more about learning, organizing, knowledge gathering, and there can be some dark nights of the soul. And I say that in the most fantastic, fabulous way. It might feel painful at the time or weird, but it is opening you to your new evolution that is going to take place right during the 7 personal year. It is a time to develop the right state of mind. It's kind of a baby Yoda saying that I that I actually quote from another numerology just named Dr. Juno Jordan and I love that quote. It is the year to develop the right state of mind. And so there's a lot going on under the surface there. But that is not a year for action, action, action, and it is not a year to really, really blaze forward financially. That comes in your 8 personal year. So the 8 personal year comes in after that beginning of a three year push time is what I call it. It is you're ready now to to get in there, to get on terra firma, it's all about the material world, usually is about your career, about your finances. And it's about power and empowerment on all levels. And it can be a real butt kicker. You know, it really it really kicks you up the ladder. Laughing.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:38:23] It goes -
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:38:24] It goes. All right, You want this? Prove it. Show us. Go after it. Don't say no for an answer, don't take no for an answer, that sort of thing! It's that kind of more assertive, aggressive, sort of sort of going after things. And then the 9 personal year after that is a year where you've been paddling, paddling, paddling. To use this metaphor, in the 8 personal year, you're just making it happen. You're you're just, you know, doing all that. And in the 9, it's like, okay, now I'm in the street, now I'm in the flow. I've set the trajectory of my flow. Now I'm going to put these paddles in the canoe. And I'm going to kind of lean back and get a get a wider view. Right. Because I've been I've been so focused on those paddles. Now I can see, "Oh, look at this beautiful scenery." Laughing. Right? Look how blue the sky is, look at, I can hear the birds now. I can get the more of the subtleties. And so it's really a year that is asking you to go with how everything flows and to let go of anything that isn't serving you in your life anymore. Relationships, jobs. It can be a time where there can be health stuff that moves you into this new new trajectory in your life. All of the things that that are standing in your way to to your higher, higher purpose. Will will have the opportunity to to depart, to exit. And it's the beautiful thing, it's about forgiveness, and it can be a year where your dreams come true. If you are ready, willing and able to absolutely go through that reinvention. Right. I will often tell the story of a woman who was in a workshop of mine and she was in a 9 personal year. I think she was in her her 50s at that time. And we were talking about it, and I said, how is it, you know? She said, "Oh, I'm in my 9!" And no one else was in their 9 and that year, which is unusual actually. But she, she said, I said, "Well, okay. And how's that going for you?" You know, because there are things that happen in a nine that people find difficult, you know, and traumatic oftentimes. And she said, "Oh my God, this is the best year of my entire life!" And we were toward the end of it, you know, I mean, she wasn't just starting out, you know, and I said, "Oh, okay, well, tell me more!" She said, "I got a divorce. I've been meaning to leave this marriage for years. And we stayed for the for our child and, you know, for our son. I've been wanting to get a divorce for years. That is finally final. My son, who we stayed for, graduated from college, and he has a job and he's on his way. He's self-sufficient. Everything is done. Check." She said "I quit my job that I have wanted to quit forever and ever. And I left that job and I moved. We sold our house, we sold everything, all the divorce stuff. And I moved to this" the city that I was, you know, giving the workshop, and she said, "I don't have a job. I have no idea what I'm doing, and I could not be happier." She said, "I am just so enthralled at what's coming next." So, most people would be sucking their thumb and drinking, you know, drinking a liter of vodka at that point, right? Because those are all the things that that no one wants to deal with. Right. What is it on that hierarchy of trauma and grief, you know, losing your job? You know, getting a divorce, all of those things. But she was really, really in it. And that's sort of a very escalated, dramatic example, and yet it really is a real one. So me personally, I'm going through a 9 personal year and it's been a very it's been very, very interesting. Sometimes in a 9 personal year, you can also travel quite a bit. The 9 is an international number. It is the humanitarian number. So it is teaching you compassion for yourself and for others, forgiveness. It's teaching you how to expand your viewfinder and look at other you know, and look at people as a whole. It can be a time that is very, very creative for artistic creatives and that sort of thing. So and yet at the end of the day, things are going to drop off during that during the 9, and you have to be able to hang around in that liminal space for a little bit and not know because most of us want something with clarity to come in and take the place. Right. Of something that has gone and that just is not allowed during a 9 during a 9 personal year. And then we go back to the number 1. So we go 1 to 9, and we just keep rinsing and repeating that cycle from birth to death.
Dr. Lotte [00:43:47] Wow. Just fascinating. You know how each year is so dramatically different for the messages of each year. I can't wait to see what 5 it's going to bring me now! Laughing. I'm curious! Considering 4 was so spot on. But it is, it's fascinating how it how it plays out. And it's we think that it's we have I mean, I always feel like we're under the illusion of having control over our life, but we really don't. It is it is so guided and so preplanned in in in certain ways of what we are to experience in each of these years. It's fascinating how spot on it is.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:44:26] Well and what I find fascinating is also to to kind of, you know, I don't know, hold hands with the work that you do with the ancestral healing and all of the other experiences that you've had, it's it's it when you were talking about when we're off of our souls purpose. Right? It's it's we know it, and we'll have we will either have or you and I who work with clients more regularly will have someone come in and they're like, I just what is it? You know, what is my purpose? I just feel off. And so we know that we're not quite aligned with it, right?
Dr. Lotte [00:45:04] Yeah.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:45:04] And yet we're, we're, you know, just grasping at, at, at things and, and when we can have something that can validate our experience and also lead us, into right into, into being more in alignment. Because it all is about how we feel, we know we are when we feel that click, when we feel that pivot, when we feel that surge of energy, of rightness, and it will shift and it'll change, we can make it. I always say it's really interesting a lot of people are really afraid of making a decision. And I know I'm not the only one who says this, but I will say okay. The thing is, is that just make the decision because you can you can and will always make another decision, right?
Dr. Lotte [00:45:59] Yup.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:45:59] You make a decision and and it is, quote unquote, "the wrong one". Well, you just get to make another one and another one, and we always are anyway, it's just you can always reroute. You can always make another make another choice. And you always are going to have to whether you want to or not, right? That's the other thing people think, I remember seeing an interview once with Tom Hanks, and he was doing a roundtable with some actors, you know, the Robert De Niro's and Tom Hanks and all of these guys. And and I think the question was, what do you what would you what do you wish you would have known. Right. Your your in earlier in life or what would you tell your younger self or something like that. And Tom Hanks said "This too, shall pass." He said, "That is what I wish I had known. You said you're feeling great. You're on the top of the world. You just won your Oscar. You, whatever. This too, shall pass." Laughing. Said you're feeling down, you're feel like crap, you're feeling like, you know, whatever it is, this too shall pass. And so, as clichéd as it sounds, I think it really is something that numerology reminds us that that all of this is cyclical, that there are times and places for everything and that our soul is here to experience as much as possible, right? Don't you find that?
Dr. Lotte [00:47:29] Yeah, absolutely! I mean we we signed up to have this incredible journey.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:47:34] Yes!
Dr. Lotte [00:47:34] It's like riding a roller coaster. Like you said, some, you know, you win that Oscar, and then you don't get that the lead in that movie or whatever if you're an actor. But that's just life. And there's other other things that are supposed to happen instead of that. That's how I look at it. If it doesn't pan out, then, you know, just open another door and I see something else that's waiting for you in that path. And that door that you open might not have been the right one. So just open another door and see if that's the right one.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:48:03] Exactly. Exactly. So that's why I love these modalities because it again, it's not predictive. It doesn't take away free will. It doesn't tell you what to do. It simply gives you I don't know. I just envision it like we were all on the other side and we were right now at this contract. And wouldn't it be nice? I mean, there are so many avenues and and ways to have access to that contract, and this is one of them. Because so many people like, "Well, it'd be nice if I knew what I was supposed to do. I didn't come in with an instruction manual". You're like, Well, actually, yeah, you did.
Dr. Lotte [00:48:41] You did! Exactly. Laughing. That's exactly how I feel, too. So how can people, you know, learn about their numerology, have a session with you or order a report from you? How does that work?
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:48:53] Just simply go to FeliciaBender.com and I've got a lot of free content there, articles, there's a life path calculator, videos, there's all, there's everything numerology there and you can book a session. I also have some programs and some online courses, that sort of thing. So you can just poke around at FeliciaBender.com and see what what you can learn and what, what will hook you with numerology, because you and I both know that that is what happens, right? You kind of start going down, you're like, Oh my gosh, this is amazing. Sorry! You get to hear my daughter's dog barking. I'm dog sitting today! Laughing.
Dr. Lotte [00:49:37] That's alright! Laughing. Very faint in the background!
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:49:38] It's been quiet all day, but not now. He's saying he's protecting me from some villains!
Dr. Lotte [00:49:45] Right! Laughter. The Post-Man, or somebody!
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:49:47] Yes exactly! Laughing.
Dr. Lotte [00:49:48] So we're going to put the link in the podcast notes as well. So people you can just go to the link and and go visit Felicia's website and order your own numerology report or schedule a session with Felicia. So I just want to thank you so much for taking the time and being a guest yet another time on the podcast! I just love having you come back at the beginning of every year and give us a glimpse of, you know, what's coming, what how do we tune into this coming year and what's in store for us? So again, thank you so much for taking the time.
Felicia Bender, Ph.D. [00:50:23] Thank you.
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